HOW SAYING “NO” WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

If you’re like me and want to avoid offending people, don’t want to act selfish, and want to help others, then you’ll have difficulties saying no to others. But in the end, you’ll feel unhappy and frustrated.

SO HERE IS THE SECRET,

HOW I PUT MYSELF AS A TOP PRIORITY

AND LEARNED HOW TO SAY NO.

WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN TO SAY NO

• Imagine you have to give an important presentation tomorrow and your friends are inviting you to watch a movie with them and they’re saying that you can prepare for the presentation afterward. Even though what they are saying seems logical at that point and you also want to watch the movie. But you know the right thing to do is to finish off that presentation first as you can watch the movie later.
• In this case, If you choose to say yes then — when you return to work, you probably won’t be able to concentrate and regret going even though you like the movie. That presentation was your top priority and in the end, you weren’t able to complete that top priority task.
• If you choose to say no then — you will get your work done, and maybe after finishing your work you go out with your friends to watch a movie.
• The benefits of saying no here are saved time, a focused mind while working, and energy saved. In this way Saying no will make you more productive.
• It will improve your interpersonal relationships and you’ll become more confident.

WHEN TO SAY “NO”

• DON’T put other people’s work on top priority as you will eventually feel sad, stressed, and exhausted even though you did it for them to make them happy, your goals are getting hampered and it will have a serious effect on your happiness. So, It’s better to say no in this kind of situation.
• YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR SELF PRIORITY and whatever seems to not work in that direction will harm your life, So it’s better to say no to anything that breaks your top priority.
• In your routine life, you may have to say no to your friends, family, colleagues, etc. But, Don’t fear what they think about you when you say no- as long they understand the circumstances and as long as they understand you, they will understand the situation and they’ll even encourage you to do the work that you’re trying to do.

HOW TO SAY NO WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY

1. BE HONEST- explaining why you denied the offer will help them understand and judge by themself that if they’ll be in our place what will they do…
2. DON’T SAY NO DIRECTLY- If you are in a position where your colleagues are asking you to join them for drinks, just deny them by saying that you have a dinner plan with your family and any other reason for not going.
3. TELLING THEM TO ASK LATER- This has some great advantages as maybe you’ll get your work done by that time and you can join them later, and even if you’re not free then they’ll understand because you wanted to come as you told them to ask later but you didn’t have time and you are busy.
4. TELLING THEM TO ASK OTHERS- If you’re in a position where a co-worker asks you to help him with something, don’t say no directly. You can give the other person’s name and say that he would be more suitable to help you with this as his guidance will get your work done in no time.

FINAL THOUGHTS

• When you put yourself as a top priority, you force your life to change and you’ll grow as a person and be more productive and eventually achieve your goals in no time, But to achieve this you have to learn to say “no” as it is a very crucial skill in life and once you master it there will be no one stopping you for achieving success and fulfilling your dreams.