Anger is NOT a Solution - by Dr Tulika Sarkar - CollectLo

Anger is NOT a Solution

Dr Tulika Sarkar - CollectLo

Dr Tulika Sarkar

Content Writer

6 min read . Aug 10 2023


Humans are born with the impulse and emotion of anger. Anger is a natural response to emotional or physical harm. Everything is OK and even beneficial as long as the rage is under control. However, it can become a serious issue if rage spirals out of control. Then, you'll need to learn how to control your anger, and frequent meditation practice can help.
If one's anger spirals out of control, controlling it is vitally necessary to avoid difficulties that could last a lifetime. Anger can disrupt our mental health. Cortisol levels are typically higher in those who are frequently angry or depressed, which is stressful to the nervous system.

Such physiological responses might result in medical issues, including headaches, high blood pressure, insomnia, sadness, and more. Additionally, persistent stress is thought to contribute to the propensity for a negative attitude.
● How does meditation help in anger management?
We all know that while some anger is acceptable, excessive anger is never healthy. We are taught from an early age "not to be angry," but we are never taught how to manage or control anger. Anger is a feeling we experience when something happens against our wishes or that we find objectionable. In these circumstances, it never follows that we are always right or always wrong, but being very angry frequently leaves us unprepared.
Practice of meditation is a useful strategy for controlling anger. Regular mindfulness practice can help with issues, including anger, depression, and anxiety. Additionally, the mindset of understanding the source of our rage and evaluating its justification is developed.
Regular meditation practice has the added benefit of teaching people how to deal with negative emotions in a calm, rational manner rather than getting overly excited about them.
● From the perspective of a meditation practitioner, anger is an expression of inner energy
Our capacity to receive is enhanced by regular mindfulness meditation practice. We get a great deal of mental serenity when we learn to accept anything as a person or circumstance in comparison, which lowers our propensity to become upset. By regularly practicing mindfulness, we learn to pay attention to the present moment and actively seek out its beneficial features. Avoid becoming depressed by occupying your mind with numerous previous or future thoughts.
● Mindfulness is the result of practice
Regular mindfulness practice causes certain beneficial modifications in our minds and characters, which alters how we express any emotion or mood.
Due to a specific circumstance, we become agitated, which eventually leads to rage. Most of the time, when we are upset by an undesired cause, we try to ignore it, but if we do, if we are fearful, it eventually transforms into rage. We can learn to accept any condition by regularly practicing meditation. Self-control is developed through meditation practice, enabling us to assess any uncomfortable circumstance without becoming enraged and then make a decision. We learn how to control any emotion, including rage, through meditation
✔️ Top tips on how to stop getting angry at someone :
a. Relax to stay calmb. Ask clearly before responding
c. Apply the "90-second" rule of counting the number in reverse
d. Share your thoughts with others you trust
e. Keep yourself busy with work
f. Review yourselfg. Think before you speak
h. Learn to say sorry
Anger Management
Anger is a very natural feeling like love, dislike, joy, and pain. But anger is a very negative emotion that can mask a person's human qualities to a large extent. Personal and family spheres, workplaces, relationships, friendships, or even good relations with someone can be ruined in an instant because of something said or done in anger. Anger will arise just like any other emotion. However, how to control oneself during anger is the main thing.
Therefore, learn some effective strategies for self-control during times of rage if you want to maintain it in daily life :
1) Keep practicing deep breathing—
If you suddenly have overwhelming rage for any cause, a deep breathing practice will work wonders. Anger causes the body's muscles to stiffen up very quickly. Therefore, exercising deep breathing will assist in calming the body and mind instead of allowing anger to fester.
2) Count the numbers—
Counting numbers during anger is a very old and effective method. Attention works the other way if you start counting numbers to reduce anger quickly. By doing this, one can lessen the impact of anger and separate themselves from the negative conduct that anger causes.
3) Focus on the present—
Anytime rage comes up, try to bring your awareness to the present. You'll see that most of the time, the causes of past occurrences are where rage develops. It is crucial to concentrate on the current happenings at this time in order to deflect attention away from the opposing side or the target of your ire.
4) Count the numbers in the opposite direction—
If you are angry for any reason or in a situation of anger, follow the '90 second rule' (counting the numbers in the opposite direction from 90) in your mind.
5) Listen to your favorite music—
You should start listening to your favourite music to relax if you are upset about something. The song's rhythm and melody rapidly calm the tension and deflect attention. Favorite music makes it extremely simple to get rid of mental angst.
6) Take time before speaking—
Wait a few seconds before speaking when furious. If you'd like to talk, do so carefully, considering that this could result in more serious issues. This is an effective way to control your anger.
7) Divert your attention—
Don't act or speak suddenly in anger. Walk away from the situation with common courtesy or divert your mind.
8) Take a short walk—
Take a quick walk if you can't control your rage at all. This will prevent the opportunity for anger to fester, and it will also give your mind a chance to gradually settle down.
9) Think positive—
Consider the bright and positive side of every circumstance. Whatever occurs, focus on the positive aspects of the situation rather than the negative ones to avoid getting irritated.
10) Learn to forgive—
It is natural for people to make mistakes. So it is not wise to get angry for someone's mistake. Forgive them instead of harboring anger. Trust me, you'll love yourself later on for doing this.
11) Cultivate Acceptance—
Some issues remain unresolved, and some questions remain unanswered. So, improve your capacity for acceptance. Acceptance does not equate to failure. Keep in mind that life contains both successes and failures.
12) Express anger only when you are cool—
Only express anger when you can think about it. No matter how angry, insulting others is not the right thing to do.
13) Try to be relaxed—
Relaxation makes it simpler to manage anger. At this point, take a deep breath. Take any action you like—listen to music, read books, pursue your passion, etc.
14) Be emotionally stable—
Emotional instability is a cause of excessive anger. Everything seems wrong in mental instability. As a result, we can easily get irritated. So stay mentally stable.
15) Try to find a solution—
Nothing happens in the world without a reason. There will always be a solution if there is a problem. Similar to this, if there is a cause for your anger, you must address it and curb your outbursts.
16) Make a promise not to be angry—
Make a commitment to yourself that "no matter what happens, I will not be angry." Remind yourself often that you won't be furious when the occasion calls for it. It will be simple to manage your rage.
17) Increase your sense of humor—
Don't constantly be serious; occasionally, have fun, crack jokes, and lighten the mood. If you feel your anger rising, find something enjoyable to do to normalise it.
18) Seek the help of psychologists—
If you can not control your anger by trying the above methods, then you can take the help of a psychologist.
We frequently do ourselves bodily or mental injury when we are angry. Therefore, it is crucial to manage your emotions. Practice of meditation is a straightforward and appealing method for this. Not only does regular meditation help with anger management. There are many advantages, including mental tranquility and a decrease in tension and stress. Self-control is improved with daily practice that lasts at least 15-20 minutes.
Stay healthy, stay well, and encourage others to stay healthy.

Written by Dr Tulika Sarkar

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